By Christina Kanu (@MissKanu)
This topic is something close to my heart. It has led to many interesting conversations with my friends, family, and even people who I do not know. People are always asking me “Why are you so busy?” Or I occasionally will get the “Can you pencil me in?” By this point in the article anyone who is in any leadership role knows exactly what I am talking about.
A few years ago I was living a crazy life as a leader. I would always find a way to fit everything in my schedule. I would run from class, to meetings, to a reception, to a conference call, and then maybe get a few hours of sleep. This was what my life consisted of daily. Those who were closest to me were extremely worried. They would ask me to just sit down somewhere. But I told them I was good and that I got it. I had adjusted my life to fit this extremely busy lifestyle.
Eventually after a series of events I realized this was not going to work. There was no reason every single time an email, phone call, or text came in that my life had to stop. I had to put some boundaries in my life. I had to ask myself a question. Do I have FOMO? In that moment I decided that the Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) was not going to be a stronghold in my life.
What is FOMO ? FOMO is when a person does not want to miss out anything. It sounds simple yet it is so complex. A person will go to great depths to make sure they can attend every meeting, party, event, project, reception, banquet, gathering, breakfast, lunch, dinner, etc.
When a person has FOMO they do not know how to say no. Any and everything that they are invited to they feel they should attend. The problem is not attending a lot of events. The problem is when the person puts all of their other work aside because they cannot miss out.
Most of the time people do not want to miss out because they feel that they are missing something. Or they do not want to be the person who was not in the Insta.Gram or Facebook photo. It sounds crazy but trust and believe it is true.
A person will not reach their full potential if they do not place boundaries in their life. If you want to be a mediocre leader then keep attending everything and putting your work to the side. However, if you are striving for excellence then you will learn the true meaning of balance and sitting down sometimes.
Below are 4 ways to start your process to being delivered from FOMO
- Strategically plan out your calendar– If a person has a calendar then they will be able to plan out their time wisely. A person will be able to know when they are free and when they are not. It also helps to block out time for work, school, family, friends, business etc.
- If you don’t want to go then don’t go– It really is that simple. There are some things a person has to go to which is fine. But there are some things you really do not need to be there. If you know you are crazy busy why on earth would you attend an event that could still function with or without you?
- Change your circle– If you are constantly surrounded by people who do not have anything better to do then to make you feel bad that you are busy there is a problem. Birds of a feather flock together. The people you associate with should also have stuff keeping them busy. If they are busy they cannot point out the fact that you are always busy.
- Get your priorities together– It is imperative to understand that your dreams cannot wait. If you are more concerned with being in the mix all the time versus accomplishing your dreams that is a problem. There is a time and place for everything. Reaching your dreams cannot be waited on.
Your life as a leader will start to feel easier when you make these changes. It is important to have balance in your life. If not you will burn out and your journey a leader will end sooner rather than later.
For more assistance on how to be delivered from FOMO please feel free to contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org !